I think it's a fair hill to die on, I'll join you. I go so far as to say if I take a very direct tone with you after a formality and you keep up the formalities

I think it's a fair hill to die on, I'll join you. I go so far as to say if I take a very direct tone with you after a formality and you keep up the formalities, it's a bit of a red flag. Gimmie the words with what you want only, please.