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more people have tattoos that, given other social indicators, would probably not have gotten (as many) tattoos as they might have in the past. it's definitely b

more people have tattoos that, given other social indicators, would probably not have gotten (as many) tattoos as they might have in the past. it's definitely been something of a fad over the last decade or so that seems to be ebbing a bit (at least according to friends of mine who tattoo - bad for them, but that's life). we saw the same thing over a shorter period with stretched ears - a lot of people did it at the height of its popularity but have since let their piercings close (or resorted to surgery if they were past that point). tbh, i don't really care if "squares/normies" get tattoos or weird piercings (or get them removed), but i do kinda welcome the return to "otherness" that it used to confer. i like having tattoos and piercings for their own sake. even though 99% of my tattoos are extremely stupid and i wouldn't get them today, i'm happy to keep them as a reminder of where i was in life when i got them.

ravenstine 1y ago
> tbh, i don't really care if "squares/normies" get tattoos or weird piercings (or get them removed) EDIT: I think I misinterpreted your statement, but I'll leave my response anyway just because. I thought you meant "get" in the sense of understanding them. I appreciate you saying this offhand for some reason, even though I don't think you were trying to give credit to others. Naturally, I am both liberal and perhaps libertarian in the sense that I think people have a right to get tattoos and I don't have a problem with people having them. What has long bugged me though are the numerous people who clearly get body modifications in order to attract validation from others. If one isn't in their unspoken club, they become super defensive and accusatory. For example, as much as I have no interest in getting tattoos, I will compliment people on their tattoos that I appreciate. When inevitably asked in response why I don't have any tattoos, I tell the other person that I simply have no desire for one. When that answer isn't accepted, I sometimes (mistkenly) admit that I don't like them in general. This triggers a lot of tattoo people, even though my choice of words doesn't actually suggest that I hate all tattoos or their tattoos. On an even more intense level, it's verboten in my society, as a man, to openly state a preference for women without tattoos. I never bring it up unless prompted, yet I often get so much blowback for this. The word "judgmental" always gets slung my way. It's pretty clear that something else is going on here when people get this defensive over something that is fairly trivial.
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- hooverd 1y ago
  Could be that they're understanding your preference as a normative statement. You're probably not the first person to mention how they would look better without tattoos, even if that's not exactly what you meant.
- tuna74 1y ago
  How do you get people to ask you about your preference for tattooed vs "natural" women?
  - ravenstine 1y ago
    Some people like to show off their new tattoos and ask my opinion, or I will just compliment someone on a tattoo they have that caught my notice. And sometimes that leads to "You got any tattoos?" or "You ever gonna get a tattoo?" As far as the woman thing goes, guys have a tendency to talk about women, and sometimes the topic of tattoo'd women comes up. I've been on this planet for nearly 40 years, so while this isn't really a common conversation, I've encountered it enough times to notice recurring themes.

ravenstine 1y ago

> tbh, i don't really care if "squares/normies" get tattoos or weird piercings (or get them removed) EDIT: I think I misinterpreted your statement, but I'll leave my response anyway just because. I thought you meant "get" in the sense of understanding them. I appreciate you saying this offhand for some reason, even though I don't think you were trying to give credit to others. Naturally, I am both liberal and perhaps libertarian in the sense that I think people have a right to get tattoos and I don't have a problem with people having them. What has long bugged me though are the numerous people who clearly get body modifications in order to attract validation from others. If one isn't in their unspoken club, they become super defensive and accusatory. For example, as much as I have no interest in getting tattoos, I will compliment people on their tattoos that I appreciate. When inevitably asked in response why I don't have any tattoos, I tell the other person that I simply have no desire for one. When that answer isn't accepted, I sometimes (mistkenly) admit that I don't like them in general. This triggers a lot of tattoo people, even though my choice of words doesn't actually suggest that I hate all tattoos or their tattoos. On an even more intense level, it's verboten in my society, as a man, to openly state a preference for women without tattoos. I never bring it up unless prompted, yet I often get so much blowback for this. The word "judgmental" always gets slung my way. It's pretty clear that something else is going on here when people get this defensive over something that is fairly trivial.

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hooverd 1y ago
Could be that they're understanding your preference as a normative statement. You're probably not the first person to mention how they would look better without tattoos, even if that's not exactly what you meant.
tuna74 1y ago
How do you get people to ask you about your preference for tattooed vs "natural" women?
- ravenstine 1y ago
  Some people like to show off their new tattoos and ask my opinion, or I will just compliment someone on a tattoo they have that caught my notice. And sometimes that leads to "You got any tattoos?" or "You ever gonna get a tattoo?" As far as the woman thing goes, guys have a tendency to talk about women, and sometimes the topic of tattoo'd women comes up. I've been on this planet for nearly 40 years, so while this isn't really a common conversation, I've encountered it enough times to notice recurring themes.