Similar situation here and my conclusion is that getting in shape requires: -exercise -regular sleep -good diet With an infant and a toddler on board I can

Similar situation here and my conclusion is that getting in shape requires: -exercise -regular sleep -good diet With an infant and a toddler on board I can maybe do two, but typically one. If it's any consolation sleep deprivation prevents long-term memories from being formed, so you won't remember most of this. In the first three months after my first child was born there was definitely something happening, but I wouldn't know - I don't recall any of it.