Very good post. I’m happy the author has had these important personal insights. Things that I’ve learned (through much difficulty) for myself that feel relevan

Very good post. I’m happy the author has had these important personal insights. Things that I’ve learned (through much difficulty) for myself that feel relevant: * Boundaries: not all problems are mine to fix. It’s okay to say no, even if someone else doesn’t like it. * Acceptance: perfection is an illusion, there will always be an endless list of problems to work on, human time and energy have real limits, I am allowed to have different desires and motivations today versus yesterday (or an hour ago!) *Emotional maturity: humans are emotional beings, it’s okay to get annoyed / upset at something, including particular issues with software. The root cause of an emotion often becomes clear much later than after the initial trigger, which usually is only slightly connected to the deeper issue. *Wisdom / self-love: it’s ok to rest. It’s okay to not finish a project. It’s okay to say no. Human lives are immensely complicated, we will always make mistakes, and change happens always. Words like need and should are are directives springing from the shifting, hidden narratives we have imbued our lives with. We can understand and reshape these narratives. If I had more time I would have a written a neater, more concise, and more complete list :)