> After she’d been talking for about 20 minutes, I began to get an unpleasant, familiar feeling: I bet if I stop asking her questions, she won’t ask me any. Sur

> After she’d been talking for about 20 minutes, I began to get an unpleasant, familiar feeling: I bet if I stop asking her questions, she won’t ask me any. Sure enough, she wrapped up one answer, then looked at me expectantly, like a dog waiting for a treat. Oh hell no, I thought. No way. I turned to the person next to me, a friend. “She’s a non-asker,” I said. “I’m done.” I'm shocked at how horribly the author may have misinterpreted the situation. When the person looked at her expectantly... they weren't waiting for a treat, for goodness sakes. They were waiting for the author to do the talking for the next 20 minutes. That expectant look is -- I've been doing all the talking, now it's your turn please! The author doesn't seem to understand the very basic ideas of how non-askers engage in conversation.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43864532 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43864532