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I went to an event where I only really knew 1 other person. We sat at a table full of people we had never met. At least one of the couples talked at length anyt
by joshstrange 2y ago
I went to an event where I only really knew 1 other person. We sat at a table full of people we had never met. At least one of the couples talked at length anytime we asked them a question. We even made small comments that would have been perfect opportunities to follow up like "My daughter's bakery had a problem just like that", was there any follow up about "what bakery?" or even an acknowledgement of the comment? Nope, right back into their stories.
I can tell you all about duck eggs, things to put in a food dehydrator, how this woman makes great gluten free treats, except when they don't turn out right, but that's just how baking is... I could go on.
We left the event and the first thing we said to each other was "Wow, I can't believe they didn't ask us a single question".
It's selfish. Period. Just like people that are always late to things, no, it's not a fun personality quirk, it's just rude.
- crazygringo 2y agoYou might want to ask yourself, why didn't you tell stories too? Why did you need to be asked? Why couldn't you take the initiative in sharing about yourselves? Why didn't you interpret the others' behavior as politely not wanting to put you on the spot, where you'd have to answer a question maybe you wouldn't want to? It's not selfish or rude. It's just a different style: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43864532 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43864532
- creer 2y agoWhy did anyone there keep asking them questions? There were others at the table. There might have been two problems at that table. But sure, lack of awareness can waste everybody's time.