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> when my conversation partner is happy to lead me through? This is really easy to misjudge though. If we care about having a conversation, we need to pitch in
by creer 1y ago
> when my conversation partner is happy to lead me through?
This is really easy to misjudge though. If we care about having a conversation, we need to pitch in too. At the peril of it NOT being a conversation. Even if we are happy with the direction, we can try and provide hints that we are not just "this". One idea is to occasionally prompt for an echo about this direction, like "what part of all this is interesting to you?" or "what else does this echo for you?". The phrasing doesn't matter much, just an opportunity for that person to inject a little of themselves in there.
- weinzierl 1y agoI fully agree. My point was more that I believe this is hard, or at least hard for some people.
- creer 1y ago> hard Oh yes, no doubt about that. And one of the many, many real life skills that schools should concern themselves with. Because who else? Another opportunity though is people watching. When bored or noised-out I sometimes give up on getting two words in and instead observe how people in that circle are talking or rather participating. There is amazing stuff going on at the meta level. People trying to be good hosts, people with zero self-awareness, other people observing and taking notes, people aware they are being chased, others not at all... It's fun.