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I recognized its pernicious effects on me and gave it up after getting married and before having a kid. This was after being exposed to it for decades from a yo

I recognized its pernicious effects on me and gave it up after getting married and before having a kid. This was after being exposed to it for decades from a young age through unrestricted access to the internet. I think that’s an all too common story. It’s crazy how normalized it becomes once it worms its way into your life, but having been off of it for some time now, I see clearly what a terrible influence it was on me. It’s also made me aware of the extreme perversions and predatory behaviors out in the world which I’ll use as context to make sure my kids never fall victim to.

k__ 1y ago
"I recognized its pernicious effects on me" What effects did it have on you? "made me aware of the extreme perversions" Such as?
- maroonblazer 1y ago
  Not the parent, but for me, porn served as a kind of supernormal stimulus. It became difficult to become aroused with my partner when I had a practically infinite variety of virtual women to choose from, doing an infinite variety of things. Quitting porn was one of the best things I did for my sex life.
  - bradlys 1y ago
    I hear about this sometimes and I just wonder if the post-nut clarity makes you recoil. If I was finding my partner less attractive to the point of finding it challenging to become aroused around them, it certainly has more to do with them than it does with whatever I am watching. I’ve never experienced this even in the slightest and I’ve definitely had moments where I was unattractive to my partner and not having sex with them and substituting with porn. It was cause they were being a jerk and I didn’t wanna fuck them. Shocker.
    - maroonblazer 1y ago
      It makes me recoil that I replaced my partner with simulacrum of her. I've been in situations like the one you describe but this was not that. It's not about attractiveness. A good analogy is that you can sate your sweet tooth by eating certain fruits. But if you start binging candy bars and ice cream, suddenly that pineapple you used to love no longer does the job.
- replwoacause 1y ago
  Should be obvious if you read the article, which you clearly have not. But since you’re asking, it hijacks your dopamine system and makes you behave like a lab rat. You use it for a quick boost, to cope, etc. Really the same kind of effect you notice in other addictive behaviors like gambling and overeating. As for the perversions, you don’t need me to enumerate them. Go visit pornhub if you’re somehow still unclear. By the way, I’m no prude or religious zealot. I have nothing against sex workers. But the industry fraught with abuse that I can’t be a party to in any way. If you have no problems with it then good for you I guess.
  - IAmBroom 1y ago
    Your use of the word "perversions" tells me all I need to know about your mindset. You are pre-judging people who like things you do not (or at least, things you wish you did not).
    - replwoacause 1y ago
      No it doesn’t. And that’s a strange take and simply untrue. I don’t judge anyone for looking at porn or having tastes I can’t relate to, but I’ve seen first hand what the damaging effects of regular porn watching can be and don’t want any part of it. I think it’s odd you take issue with my usage of the word perversions, I’m referring to things like humiliation, violence, objectification, abuse, exploitation, etc. I don’t think you can argue successfully that porn doesn’t have these problems.

k__ 1y ago

"I recognized its pernicious effects on me" What effects did it have on you? "made me aware of the extreme perversions" Such as?

maroonblazer 1y ago
Not the parent, but for me, porn served as a kind of supernormal stimulus. It became difficult to become aroused with my partner when I had a practically infinite variety of virtual women to choose from, doing an infinite variety of things. Quitting porn was one of the best things I did for my sex life.
- bradlys 1y ago
  I hear about this sometimes and I just wonder if the post-nut clarity makes you recoil. If I was finding my partner less attractive to the point of finding it challenging to become aroused around them, it certainly has more to do with them than it does with whatever I am watching. I’ve never experienced this even in the slightest and I’ve definitely had moments where I was unattractive to my partner and not having sex with them and substituting with porn. It was cause they were being a jerk and I didn’t wanna fuck them. Shocker.
  - maroonblazer 1y ago
    It makes me recoil that I replaced my partner with simulacrum of her. I've been in situations like the one you describe but this was not that. It's not about attractiveness. A good analogy is that you can sate your sweet tooth by eating certain fruits. But if you start binging candy bars and ice cream, suddenly that pineapple you used to love no longer does the job.
replwoacause 1y ago
Should be obvious if you read the article, which you clearly have not. But since you’re asking, it hijacks your dopamine system and makes you behave like a lab rat. You use it for a quick boost, to cope, etc. Really the same kind of effect you notice in other addictive behaviors like gambling and overeating. As for the perversions, you don’t need me to enumerate them. Go visit pornhub if you’re somehow still unclear. By the way, I’m no prude or religious zealot. I have nothing against sex workers. But the industry fraught with abuse that I can’t be a party to in any way. If you have no problems with it then good for you I guess.
- IAmBroom 1y ago
  Your use of the word "perversions" tells me all I need to know about your mindset. You are pre-judging people who like things you do not (or at least, things you wish you did not).
  - replwoacause 1y ago
    No it doesn’t. And that’s a strange take and simply untrue. I don’t judge anyone for looking at porn or having tastes I can’t relate to, but I’ve seen first hand what the damaging effects of regular porn watching can be and don’t want any part of it. I think it’s odd you take issue with my usage of the word perversions, I’m referring to things like humiliation, violence, objectification, abuse, exploitation, etc. I don’t think you can argue successfully that porn doesn’t have these problems.