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Why is porn such a big deal? I've seen it, but the real thing is much better. How is it even possible to get addicted that just seems weird.

toomuchtodo 1y ago
Everyone’s brain is built different. Some have more executive function and control then others. Alcoholics, drug or food addiction, gambling, etc. Reward centers are tricky.
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Magma7404 1y ago
> the real thing is much better (I'm not judging you but) It's easy for you to say when you have the real thing. And that's why our societies have failed for a lot of people, and why we now must handle porn the same way we are handling drug problems. For the GP: "escape the clutches of porn" when it's the only alternative to suicide due to lack of social contact? You end up with incels who would do anything to have a way to be a part of society, and most of the time it's in a bad way. Been there done that, our society has changed in the wrong way and I don't think we're blaming the right guys. "Helping them to see the humanity and personhood of women again" is misled. The issue is that some people have no human contact with men or women at all. No male parental figure which is more important and impacting than the contact with the other sex, even in a social context. Focusing on porn and women is useless in that context (since I suspect OP is talking about, well, porn and incels and the whole bro thing).
sepositus 1y ago
I've had boys as young as 10 in my groups. How many ten-year-olds are experiencing the real thing? It's very easy to get a pre-adolescent brain hooked on this stuff. However, as someone else pointed out, every brain is unique, and not everyone experiences the same issues.
docdeek 1y ago
> How is it even possible to get addicted that just seems weird. This is a pretty common reaction to someone else's addiction. I've heard people say the same about alcohol and other less-socially acceptable drugs. I'm not a porn addict but I suspect that for people who are the response would be something like asking an alcoholic why they want another drink when they've already had so many: how is it possible to not want another drink?
- Magma7404 1y ago
  I've been a incel for a short while and know everything about alcohol. Both issues are identical: why would I give up beer when there is no alternative? Same thing for porn.
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toomuchtodo 1y ago

Everyone’s brain is built different. Some have more executive function and control then others. Alcoholics, drug or food addiction, gambling, etc. Reward centers are tricky.

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Magma7404 1y ago

> the real thing is much better (I'm not judging you but) It's easy for you to say when you have the real thing. And that's why our societies have failed for a lot of people, and why we now must handle porn the same way we are handling drug problems. For the GP: "escape the clutches of porn" when it's the only alternative to suicide due to lack of social contact? You end up with incels who would do anything to have a way to be a part of society, and most of the time it's in a bad way. Been there done that, our society has changed in the wrong way and I don't think we're blaming the right guys. "Helping them to see the humanity and personhood of women again" is misled. The issue is that some people have no human contact with men or women at all. No male parental figure which is more important and impacting than the contact with the other sex, even in a social context. Focusing on porn and women is useless in that context (since I suspect OP is talking about, well, porn and incels and the whole bro thing).

sepositus 1y ago

I've had boys as young as 10 in my groups. How many ten-year-olds are experiencing the real thing? It's very easy to get a pre-adolescent brain hooked on this stuff. However, as someone else pointed out, every brain is unique, and not everyone experiences the same issues.

docdeek 1y ago

> How is it even possible to get addicted that just seems weird. This is a pretty common reaction to someone else's addiction. I've heard people say the same about alcohol and other less-socially acceptable drugs. I'm not a porn addict but I suspect that for people who are the response would be something like asking an alcoholic why they want another drink when they've already had so many: how is it possible to not want another drink?

Magma7404 1y ago
I've been a incel for a short while and know everything about alcohol. Both issues are identical: why would I give up beer when there is no alternative? Same thing for porn.

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