Well, imagine that the big bang is really something more akin to a white hole, which is a black hole running backwards: all the stuff has outward momentum, and

Well, imagine that the big bang is really something more akin to a white hole, which is a black hole running backwards: all the stuff has outward momentum, and lots of it, so it can't get pulled back. In standard cosmology the big bang happens not at a point (so it's not really like a white hole) but everywhere, but there's also really strong repellent forces that cause "inflation", which defeats the mass-energy's gravitational pull's attempt to collapse the whole thing. But still, perhaps the thought of a white hole might help you bridge the gap. Mind you, this is a pop science, handwavy explanation.