My wife and I looked a lot into adopting, and this is a really common thing. You have adoptees who didn't have a great life and they are, justifiably, upset. B

My wife and I looked a lot into adopting, and this is a really common thing. You have adoptees who didn't have a great life and they are, justifiably, upset. But the problem is that you aren't hearing from the ones who are happy or just neutral about being adopted. So if you go to reddit, you'll hear a lot about the evils of adoption, and you won't hear anyone saying it was a positive outcome. I'd be lying if I said it didn't influence us at all about adoption. In the end, we didn't feel we had the means to adopt and my company ended its adoption benefit, so it wasn't the only reason.