First, let's not talk about dating and work in the same argument - they are fundamentally different in many important ways, and it's not conductive to the conve

First, let's not talk about dating and work in the same argument - they are fundamentally different in many important ways, and it's not conductive to the conversation. Second, at least call a spade a spade - according to you, when people say meritocracy they actually mean "meritocracy with handicaps for non-whites and non-males". Let's not call that "meritocracy", okay?