I'm one of those people. I think it comes down to the intent. There is an implicit good will of those that do this that the data isn't abused or the infrastruct

I'm one of those people. I think it comes down to the intent. There is an implicit good will of those that do this that the data isn't abused or the infrastructure behind it overwhelmed (self-hosting). "Big Tech" just make this worse, because their motivations aren't the same as ours (small web).