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Mutual sacrifice is the glue that takes time to set. Mutual interest propels activity, but reliable sacrifice is the basis of trust and reliance. But if you a
by w10-1 2y ago
Mutual sacrifice is the glue that takes time to set.
Mutual interest propels activity, but reliable sacrifice is the basis of trust and reliance.
But if you are perceived as welching on this, you will induce real and lasting anger, justifiably in my mind because you’ve just made it harder for people to trust for the rest of their lives.
And this is not limited to close friends.
A girlfriend’s mom’s advice: trust your man only after he’s crawled over a mile of broken glass, and your boss when he’s done it underwater.
- daymanstep 2y agoFollowing your girlfriend's mom's advice, you wouldn't trust anyone. Maybe that's why so few people have friends these days: they set some crazy/impossible conditions that you have to meet before they will trust you. As an autistic person it's impossible for me to guess what kind of crazy requirements I have failed to meet.
- joseda-hg 2y ago"Trust you man" implictly means an SO/Life Partner, so crazy requirement maybe, but not applied to most people
- daymanstep 2y agoYes, requiring a person to literally crawl over a mile of broken glass is a crazy requirement, and not practicable in real life scenarios. Maybe I am too autistic, but I just can't interpret that statement in a non-literal way.
- joseda-hg 2y agoMore meant in a "talk is cheap" way, that given the chance, most people would say that they would act a lot better than they do in reality, so don't believe them until they have proven themselves