>I’m sure that there’s something equivalent from the other direction, but I dont know what it is There's a risk of becoming a people pleaser or letting people

>I’m sure that there’s something equivalent from the other direction, but I dont know what it is There's a risk of becoming a people pleaser or letting people down. People expect you to manage the party or the outing or whatever. There's fear that the many relationships you have are shallow. Even in this post your suggestion is to simply use the extrovert to get to a real friend you actually want. Direct insecurity of what people "actually" think of you is still there, I'm sure. That said, people are usually thinking about their own problems and what people think of them a lot more than what they think of you so just relax a bit.