> Anyone who offers a confident explanation of the situation is probably wrong. Hear hear! Words to live by for even moderately complex issues. The best you'r

> Anyone who offers a confident explanation of the situation is probably wrong. Hear hear! Words to live by for even moderately complex issues. The best you're likely to get in this is the constructed rationalizations of puppets who are blissfully unaware of the strings that tug at them. And this applies to everyone involved— the people for whom having kids is just what you do, as well as the people who have an intense anxiety about it. The decision for each individual probably happened long long before the explanation that justifies it.