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Why shouldn't you make friends at work? Where else do you get to meet the same person 10 hours a day, 5 days a week? How do you become friends with someone if y

Why shouldn't you make friends at work? Where else do you get to meet the same person 10 hours a day, 5 days a week? How do you become friends with someone if you only meet them once in a blue moon?

scarface_74 2y ago
I’ve been working for almost 30 years across 10 jobs. I worked in office between 1996-2020. After a couple of months to at most a couple of years, those “friendships” fade. Today, I have five people I stay in touch with that I’ve worked with. Three I stopped working with around 2016 and one I stopped working with two years ago. Oh yeah and the fifth I stopped working with in 2011. She is sleeping right next to me now - I married her in 2012. But to answer your questions, I work for one reason - to exchange labor for money. My work self is “looking from the 1000 foot view”, “taking things to the parking lot” and “adding on to what Becky said”. My personal life is completely different. It’s tiring having to “code switch” with coworkers because the real me is completely different. And if you’re working 50 hours a week, you’re doing it wrong.
- toomuchtodo 2y ago
  A thousand times this. I’m not interested in showing colleagues the genuine me. We are just temporary acquaintances until we all move on, as all work arrangements are temporary.
akmarinov 2y ago
If someone leaves and you never hear from them again - that’s not friendship, that’s a cell mate
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
  Supposedly, you make friends and meet them outside of work too.
pllbnk 2y ago
Just today I have been looking through old photos of mine and saw a few pictures from a team building night in one of my previous workplaces 9 years ago. Out of around 10 people I only remembered the names of two, and then two more after some thinking. I don't keep in contact with neither of them. Meanwhile, over the years I have managed to form connections and friendships with some people both, in office, and working remotely.

Why shouldn't you make friends at work? Where else do you get to meet the same person 10 hours a day, 5 days a week? How do you become friends with someone if you only meet them once in a blue moon?

scarface_74 2y ago

I’ve been working for almost 30 years across 10 jobs. I worked in office between 1996-2020. After a couple of months to at most a couple of years, those “friendships” fade. Today, I have five people I stay in touch with that I’ve worked with. Three I stopped working with around 2016 and one I stopped working with two years ago. Oh yeah and the fifth I stopped working with in 2011. She is sleeping right next to me now - I married her in 2012. But to answer your questions, I work for one reason - to exchange labor for money. My work self is “looking from the 1000 foot view”, “taking things to the parking lot” and “adding on to what Becky said”. My personal life is completely different. It’s tiring having to “code switch” with coworkers because the real me is completely different. And if you’re working 50 hours a week, you’re doing it wrong.

toomuchtodo 2y ago
A thousand times this. I’m not interested in showing colleagues the genuine me. We are just temporary acquaintances until we all move on, as all work arrangements are temporary.

akmarinov 2y ago

If someone leaves and you never hear from them again - that’s not friendship, that’s a cell mate

Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
Supposedly, you make friends and meet them outside of work too.

pllbnk 2y ago

Just today I have been looking through old photos of mine and saw a few pictures from a team building night in one of my previous workplaces 9 years ago. Out of around 10 people I only remembered the names of two, and then two more after some thinking. I don't keep in contact with neither of them. Meanwhile, over the years I have managed to form connections and friendships with some people both, in office, and working remotely.