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> Because this worldview makes no sense once you know that these "violent and degrading acts" are extremely common fetishes among women who play the part of the
by tonyedgecombe 2y ago
> Because this worldview makes no sense once you know that these "violent and degrading acts" are extremely common fetishes among women who play the part of the "victim."
I’d like to see some evidence for that because it sounds like a projection to me.
- Viliam1234 2y agoHere is some data: https://aella.substack.com/p/fetish-tabooness-and-popularity-v3 https://aella.substack.com/p/fetish-tabooness-and-popularity... I haven't looked at it closely, so I have no idea whether it supports or opposes the hypothesis. Just wanted to give you some data.
- speff 2y ago"being submissive, sexual frustration, light bondage, spanking, choking" All clustered at the top in the feminine-preferred category.
- tonyedgecombe 2y agoThe author of that post is surveying their own audience. You can take the results with a pinch of salt.
- UncleEntity 2y ago> You can take the results with a pinch of salt. That's a sub-genre I have yet to hear about, do tell more. Seriously, though, the 'porn addict turned sexual predator' questionnaire in TFA was from anonymous people on the dark webs. Are they also salt-fetishists?
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- sudahtigabulan 2y agoFind your local BDSM community, and you'll have it. Maybe. If you're a good boy.
- tonyedgecombe 2y agoThat doesn’t make it “extremely common”.
- brookst 2y ago“Extremely” is subjective. But research[1] says almost 50% of the population has engaged in BDSM, another 13% fantasizes about it, and 12% engages in it regularly. I’d call that extremely common, far more common than skateboarding or sports cars, but YMMV may vary in definition of “extremely”. 1. https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/14/9/1152/6973476?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/14/9/1152/6973...
- tonyedgecombe 2y agoA third of British women have suffered unwanted choking in the bedroom: https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/29/third-british-women-suffered-unwanted-choking-bedroom-says-survey-11238428/ https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/29/third-british-women-suffered-...
- brookst 2y agoSure? And a shockingly high percentage of women have been raped. How does that impact how common it is for adults to consensually play rough?
- UncleEntity 2y agoI can't even count how many movies I've seen where this is a comedic plot point -- the conservative soccer mom likes to get a little freaky and someone walks in.