Yeah, sorry, I was being snarky. I think I was reacting because your original question just seemed naive .... How do you expect you could affect taxation rules

Yeah, sorry, I was being snarky. I think I was reacting because your original question just seemed naive .... How do you expect you could affect taxation rules by discussing what other nations do, or fairness? Especially assuming you are dealing with front-line staff. Should you want to change taxation laws then you have to be able to argue for your need against other needs (parents with criminal children, parents with psych problem children, parents with sick children, parents with drug abusing children yadda yadda yadda). I can only think of two options: 1: there is an art to getting the most out of government service workers. They can help you learn available rules and sometimes they can choose to bend rules in your favour. I don't have the skill but you can tell when someone has it: they get helped more than the average person. I'm not sure how one might learn that art. I'm not sure how you could find people that already have the art, who might help you. A few people are good at hacking around government rules and systems - but they are rare (and I'm very unsure how learnable the skill of working around rule systems is). 2: just deal with it yourselves. Whenever I see a parent dealing with the excessive costs, they rarely get much external help (mostly just parental help). I know multiple parents with autistic (or similarly outlier children) from 3yr old to 45yr old. In New Zealand parents get some help in some areas but unfairly it seems the parents have to shoulder the majority of the costs and time. The above doesn't seem helpful - and clearly I'm no expert - but I figure you've asked and I'll share my ignorant opinion. Good luck. The windows sound frightening.