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Don't look at New Zealand. We don't have tax deductions. New Zealand has socialised health care and socialised benefits, so there is a variable amount of gover

Don't look at New Zealand. We don't have tax deductions. New Zealand has socialised health care and socialised benefits, so there is a variable amount of government help or government money. But I'm fairly sure it is most often below what you would need. Some high needs kids might get more help. I do know of parents that have moved to countries that have better socialised healthcare. It's a radical move but perhaps worth considering depending on your circumstances. > breaks significantly more things Use thrift stores, especially ones that give deep discounts for needy parents. No government will help you buy nicer things.

bryanrasmussen 2y ago
>Use thrift stores, especially ones that give deep discounts for needy parents. No government will help you buy nicer things. yeah, but I don't think there are useful thrift stores that will help you replace 8 windows 1 balcony door a shower head every couple of months (maybe that sure, and they're cheap anyway, but it adds up) a mac m1 2 tablets 1 phone my front tooth (jumped up and hit me with his forehead, likes to hit things with his forehead, enjoys the sensation, knocked out my tooth) damage to the floor when he broke the futon and the couch (although sure, the futon and couch can be taken care of from thrift stores of some sort) the chain lock to the front door (Which freaked out my older daughter and sort of made me, huh, this thing sure wouldn't have stopped a really determined intruder) and the stairs to upstairs (jumped up and down on it descending, and he is heavy and strong for his age) stove, dishwasher, and washing machine and also maybe he was the one who broke the refrigerator - not sure. But he has damaged the new one which has a bunch of bumps in the metal front where he has hit it with his head. aside from which, yes, he has destroyed lots of his clothes by chewing through them and he eats at least twice as much as what the country believe a child his age eats. obviously the above list is what he has broken in the space of 4 years, and some of it we are not fixing but living with it broken (floor, stairs) but that is because we can't afford to fix it.
- robocat 2y ago
  Yeah, sorry, I was being snarky. I think I was reacting because your original question just seemed naive .... How do you expect you could affect taxation rules by discussing what other nations do, or fairness? Especially assuming you are dealing with front-line staff. Should you want to change taxation laws then you have to be able to argue for your need against other needs (parents with criminal children, parents with psych problem children, parents with sick children, parents with drug abusing children yadda yadda yadda). I can only think of two options: 1: there is an art to getting the most out of government service workers. They can help you learn available rules and sometimes they can choose to bend rules in your favour. I don't have the skill but you can tell when someone has it: they get helped more than the average person. I'm not sure how one might learn that art. I'm not sure how you could find people that already have the art, who might help you. A few people are good at hacking around government rules and systems - but they are rare (and I'm very unsure how learnable the skill of working around rule systems is). 2: just deal with it yourselves. Whenever I see a parent dealing with the excessive costs, they rarely get much external help (mostly just parental help). I know multiple parents with autistic (or similarly outlier children) from 3yr old to 45yr old. In New Zealand parents get some help in some areas but unfairly it seems the parents have to shoulder the majority of the costs and time. The above doesn't seem helpful - and clearly I'm no expert - but I figure you've asked and I'll share my ignorant opinion. Good luck. The windows sound frightening.

bryanrasmussen 2y ago

>Use thrift stores, especially ones that give deep discounts for needy parents. No government will help you buy nicer things. yeah, but I don't think there are useful thrift stores that will help you replace 8 windows 1 balcony door a shower head every couple of months (maybe that sure, and they're cheap anyway, but it adds up) a mac m1 2 tablets 1 phone my front tooth (jumped up and hit me with his forehead, likes to hit things with his forehead, enjoys the sensation, knocked out my tooth) damage to the floor when he broke the futon and the couch (although sure, the futon and couch can be taken care of from thrift stores of some sort) the chain lock to the front door (Which freaked out my older daughter and sort of made me, huh, this thing sure wouldn't have stopped a really determined intruder) and the stairs to upstairs (jumped up and down on it descending, and he is heavy and strong for his age) stove, dishwasher, and washing machine and also maybe he was the one who broke the refrigerator - not sure. But he has damaged the new one which has a bunch of bumps in the metal front where he has hit it with his head. aside from which, yes, he has destroyed lots of his clothes by chewing through them and he eats at least twice as much as what the country believe a child his age eats. obviously the above list is what he has broken in the space of 4 years, and some of it we are not fixing but living with it broken (floor, stairs) but that is because we can't afford to fix it.

robocat 2y ago
Yeah, sorry, I was being snarky. I think I was reacting because your original question just seemed naive .... How do you expect you could affect taxation rules by discussing what other nations do, or fairness? Especially assuming you are dealing with front-line staff. Should you want to change taxation laws then you have to be able to argue for your need against other needs (parents with criminal children, parents with psych problem children, parents with sick children, parents with drug abusing children yadda yadda yadda). I can only think of two options: 1: there is an art to getting the most out of government service workers. They can help you learn available rules and sometimes they can choose to bend rules in your favour. I don't have the skill but you can tell when someone has it: they get helped more than the average person. I'm not sure how one might learn that art. I'm not sure how you could find people that already have the art, who might help you. A few people are good at hacking around government rules and systems - but they are rare (and I'm very unsure how learnable the skill of working around rule systems is). 2: just deal with it yourselves. Whenever I see a parent dealing with the excessive costs, they rarely get much external help (mostly just parental help). I know multiple parents with autistic (or similarly outlier children) from 3yr old to 45yr old. In New Zealand parents get some help in some areas but unfairly it seems the parents have to shoulder the majority of the costs and time. The above doesn't seem helpful - and clearly I'm no expert - but I figure you've asked and I'll share my ignorant opinion. Good luck. The windows sound frightening.