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> How would that help defend you against the accusation that you resented her That's the "cordial and friendly" part; if you've never expressed any negativity
by lelanthran 2y ago
> How would that help defend you against the accusation that you resented her
That's the "cordial and friendly" part; if you've never expressed any negativity about her it boosts your credibility.
> not wanting to date you?
That's the "distance" part.
If you've never approached her in private, or for watercooler chat, or had lunch in the cafeteria together, or got coffee together ... that buys you some credibility.
In short, you never reached out to her for anything other than a work request, made in a work-provided channel (email, slack, etc), and only reached out verbally/telephonically/in-person when urgency was required.
- lynx97 2y agoI agree with you. However, there are cases were even that kind of behaviour is turned around to stab you as a male... Not making any personal connection is considered creepy by some, and there have been cases were that was reported to HR. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UZetLBx5AA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UZetLBx5AA
- ty6853 2y agoThis kind of risk mitigation is probably a losing strategy. Lawyers will find any reason to crucify you.
- lelanthran 2y ago> This kind of risk mitigation is probably a losing strategy. Lawyers will find any reason to crucify you. Right, but much better for them to have flimsy reasons that literally won't pass even a cursory glance by a court (like alone time with someone), than give them situations which allows them to introduce doubt about your innocence.
- itishappy 2y agoRefusing to work for or hire the opposite sex is also one of those reasons...