Not trying to dismiss your anecdote, as both can very much coexist separately, and I actually think your analogy is spot on for LLMs! But it did make me think

Not trying to dismiss your anecdote, as both can very much coexist separately, and I actually think your analogy is spot on for LLMs! But it did make me think of something. I once was in an environment where A got along with everyone, and B was hated by everyone else except for A. This wasn't because B saw qualities in A that no one else recognized; it was just that A was oblivous to/wasn't personally affected by all the valid reasons why everyone else disliked B. A to an extent thought of themselves as being able to see the good in B, but in reality they simply lacked the understanding of the effects of B's behavior on others.