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Hilarious username. > I can't eat with my Chinese colleagues. Now imagine marrying a brilliant, gorgeous Chinese woman who slurps and snorts and air-swallows.

by tomcam 2y ago

Hilarious username. > I can't eat with my Chinese colleagues. Now imagine marrying a brilliant, gorgeous Chinese woman who slurps and snorts and air-swallows. Drives me & the kids berserk. Her father is even worse. Shudder. For me and the kids it’s a private joke but the rage part hits when she eats in public. Noiseless! What’re we, chopped liver? I also have a bunch of other stupid problems like that. Extreme aversion to coffee breath and onion or garlic breath; having to remove shirt tags; inability to sit through out-of-tune musical performers; physical reaction to voices; ability to identify people by smell, etc.

opwieurposiu 2y ago
99% of the time our reactions to stimuli are automatic. This is why we practice mediation sitting still on a hard floor. It is not comfortable, with your legs crossed, your knees hurt, your butt hurts, it makes you feel you want to move, some one is sniffling, a baby is crying somewhere, it MAKES YOU FEEL annoyed, It is possible to overcome the "MAKES YOU FEEL" part of this. External stimulus will always be there, but with some training, the only thing that "Makes you feel" will be you. You notice the pain in your knees, but it flows over you as water flows past the stone in the river. This is easy to say but not easy to do. It takes quite a few hours of deliberate practice. Some people never get there. But, I think it is worth a try. Find a mediation class. Go every week.
- tomcam 2y ago
  It’s been recommended many times, but I seem to be unable to get through those crucial first few hours. Thank you for the recommendation though.
  - xkcd-sucks 2y ago
    A good place to start is just noticing periodically, "what I'm doing right now, is it really a better use of time / more enjoyable than sitting and doing nothing?". Sometimes it turns out that video games really aren't fun, thought loops aren't productive, everything sucks and is boring, and the present experience of breathing on and out is really the best show in town
BrandoElFollito 2y ago
> having to remove shirt tags I simply cannot understand why producers of shirts (anything you wear, actually) feel the need to stretch a tak which is rough and creates physical pain for me. And for one of my sons, but not to the other
- cluckindan 2y ago
  Hallmark of autism.

by tomcam 2y ago

opwieurposiu 2y ago

99% of the time our reactions to stimuli are automatic. This is why we practice mediation sitting still on a hard floor. It is not comfortable, with your legs crossed, your knees hurt, your butt hurts, it makes you feel you want to move, some one is sniffling, a baby is crying somewhere, it MAKES YOU FEEL annoyed, It is possible to overcome the "MAKES YOU FEEL" part of this. External stimulus will always be there, but with some training, the only thing that "Makes you feel" will be you. You notice the pain in your knees, but it flows over you as water flows past the stone in the river. This is easy to say but not easy to do. It takes quite a few hours of deliberate practice. Some people never get there. But, I think it is worth a try. Find a mediation class. Go every week.

tomcam 2y ago
It’s been recommended many times, but I seem to be unable to get through those crucial first few hours. Thank you for the recommendation though.
- xkcd-sucks 2y ago
  A good place to start is just noticing periodically, "what I'm doing right now, is it really a better use of time / more enjoyable than sitting and doing nothing?". Sometimes it turns out that video games really aren't fun, thought loops aren't productive, everything sucks and is boring, and the present experience of breathing on and out is really the best show in town

BrandoElFollito 2y ago

> having to remove shirt tags I simply cannot understand why producers of shirts (anything you wear, actually) feel the need to stretch a tak which is rough and creates physical pain for me. And for one of my sons, but not to the other

cluckindan 2y ago
Hallmark of autism.