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One thing I've tried it is to phrase it something like ... "I'm not sure if you're aware, but you are chewing quite loudly" Tone (neutral) is important. Some
by emmelaich 2y ago
One thing I've tried it is to phrase it something like ...
"I'm not sure if you're aware, but you are chewing quite loudly"
Tone (neutral) is important. Sometimes they genuinely aren't aware. They know it's theoretically a social faux pas but never thought to check themselves.
I think they've grown up around loud eaters.
- RobertRoberts 2y agoI've tried all kinds of approaches. The only ones that ever worked were based purely on the person communicated to, not how I communicated. (ie, the person cared) I've had nice conversations about it, the person listened, but was only able to be reasonable quiet for a short period of time. And then simply reverted. (they didn't care) I found the best solution was simply to face this head on and deaden my reactions to it. This reduced my reactions to a living tolerable level.
- fluoridation 2y ago>And then simply reverted. (they didn't care) Well, that's just you not empathizing with them. Chewing is not too different from walking. Imagine if someone told you they think your gait is too short, and could you take longer steps. How long would you be able to hold your affected gait before going back to your optimal gait?
- RobertRoberts 2y agoI've had near violent reactions from people when I said "I can hear you chewing." I was a mild and meek kid, and this was after they acknowledged the noise they made. Any subconscious behavior has to be controlled with a lot of effort and focus to change. Almost no one I have ever met has changed a subconscious behavior, just because I asked in a certain way. Walking can be met half way, or I can adjust _my_ gait to match there's. There's no equivalent to an irritating behavior.