I added a children's pain scale to some software (faces in varying levels of pain that children can point to). I know my mom had chronic back pain that she comp

I added a children's pain scale to some software (faces in varying levels of pain that children can point to). I know my mom had chronic back pain that she complained about, but I never really thought about it. She functioned, she got through life. She was over for dinner at the time and I must have brought the scale up in discussion. I grabbed a paper copy and asked her what her pain level was, and she pointed to the second worst. Even after that I just kind of wrote off her pain like, she functions (though sometimes I would have to go get her as she got stranded in a supermarket in too much pain to move), and that's just life. I can watch a movie of some random acting dog whimper and fake limp and have to wipe tears from my eyes, but almost instantly went to ignoring my own mother's pain because she powered through. I hope it's not because acknowledging my mother's pain would have created a cost for me (doing more for her, acknowledging would create a long term burden on me versus the quick/easy/kind of cathartic/self serving release of emotion of a sad movie) but part of me thinks that's partially the case. What's the point in measuring when our response is still just a shrug?