> These are not things that would affect you from being a good manager. That's just part of the job of being a manager. It's a different kind of problem, it's n

> These are not things that would affect you from being a good manager. That's just part of the job of being a manager. It's a different kind of problem, it's not necessarily heavier problems. The crux of the issue is here I think. You, as a manager, a report, anything, have no say as to what anyone feels and how, and how it affects them. That’s purely on them. You may only be there for them. You may think for yourself, that these are not heavier problems than other ones. Others may think differently, and feel differently. That’s not more, or less professional (whatever that word has ever meant). Being a good manager is how one does manage their team, in the end and what the outcomes are. Not how one feels/struggles to do it internally or within the confidentiality that you have with your own manager. Manager to whom you should be able to openly share how you struggle yourself internally. Which requires trust. If, ever, your manager did retort « you’re showing you’re not fit for this » or came to moral judgement for just expressing your thoughts to them, this becomes a Whiplash situation you better get out of, because that manager will not have your back, ever. (of course, if the personal issues of the manager/report turn into problematic actions or omissions, that’s another topic)