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I like bandit, but for a role model he spoils his children a bit too much I think. He allmost always does what the kid wants and not what he actually wanted to

by lukan 2y ago

I like bandit, but for a role model he spoils his children a bit too much I think. He allmost always does what the kid wants and not what he actually wanted to do. Well, he is also good at integrating it, like when he is doing exercises with the kids instead of weights. But sometimes he is literally fleeing the kids, to not have to play with them, instead of saying no. (But from the avaiable alternatives, he is indeed the best role model that comes to mind)

conductr 2y ago
Speaking for myself, that's exactly what makes it relatable. My kid consumes all my time if I let him. And, I often have to remind myself, this age is special and very short - my hobbies and 'rest' will be available again soon. I think the hard job of being a mom is well understood, documented, portrayed in media, etc. But, as a dad, I'm expected (by my kid) to be a tireless playmate matching his energy levels, playing his games, being imaginative and creative in my play, etc. and I don't think that type of parenting is well portrayed in media. My wife and I have spoken about it several time as we've fallen into pretty traditional gender roles and she's "cool with cooking and cleaning every evening, because [she] can't play the way [I] do" and it's equally exhausting after a long day of work/life/adulting.
- josephg 2y ago
  I hear & see a bunch of my friends who have an only child struggling with this. My sister has four kids now (which is crazy). She says that in many ways it’s easier with more kids, because they play with each other. She barely ever plays with them at all (which is a bit sad). But because they have each other, she gets to spend all her time being the adult in the room. It seems to be working out - her kids are doing great. She said it also really helps that they’re a bit older now. A 2 and a 4 year old have a much bigger age gap than a 6 and 8 year old. All that said, she still doesn’t get much time pursuing her hobbies. She says it’s the after school activities that do her in now.
  - bombcar 2y ago
    Her hobby is raising kids, she just might not realize it. And yes, after a certain point more becomes easier - after all, one teacher can handle a class of 20+ students. The hardest is when the oldest are too young to help with the youngest.
    - markus_zhang 2y ago
      Yeah I realized that a while go that some people just like raising kids. Can't compete with those. One kid is well enough for me.
  - tomaskafka 2y ago
    For the record of everyone, having multiple kids (3 in my case) is a thrill, and it helps much that they can play with each other instead of having the parents as a sole source of attention. Go have kids, they’re awesome :).
Tade0 2y ago
He's still more real than the parental figure puppet in Bing! (no relation to the MS product), who has no wants or needs and has infinite patience. In any case I don't think either of those shows tries to portray the average - more of an ideal we should strive for on good days.
bombcar 2y ago
Watch carefully. There are many times he says no and the kids just listen - often outright. But many times he gets his way with a distraction - the “game” the episode is named after. It’s also somewhat told from Bandit’s perspective (understandable given the author). The episode “Burger Shop” is a good example of him not getting his way at the same time he does, even though he ends up admitting his experiment was a failure.
- lukan 2y ago
  Oh, I didn't mean to imply he never says no and I like his elaborate educational games, they are truly inspiring. Just that quite often I get the feeling, I would just say no and that's it. I love playing with my kids, but not always. And I also don't like to fight with them sonthey accept it, but bandit often seems to avoid the fight by saying yes.

by lukan 2y ago

conductr 2y ago

Speaking for myself, that's exactly what makes it relatable. My kid consumes all my time if I let him. And, I often have to remind myself, this age is special and very short - my hobbies and 'rest' will be available again soon. I think the hard job of being a mom is well understood, documented, portrayed in media, etc. But, as a dad, I'm expected (by my kid) to be a tireless playmate matching his energy levels, playing his games, being imaginative and creative in my play, etc. and I don't think that type of parenting is well portrayed in media. My wife and I have spoken about it several time as we've fallen into pretty traditional gender roles and she's "cool with cooking and cleaning every evening, because [she] can't play the way [I] do" and it's equally exhausting after a long day of work/life/adulting.

josephg 2y ago
I hear & see a bunch of my friends who have an only child struggling with this. My sister has four kids now (which is crazy). She says that in many ways it’s easier with more kids, because they play with each other. She barely ever plays with them at all (which is a bit sad). But because they have each other, she gets to spend all her time being the adult in the room. It seems to be working out - her kids are doing great. She said it also really helps that they’re a bit older now. A 2 and a 4 year old have a much bigger age gap than a 6 and 8 year old. All that said, she still doesn’t get much time pursuing her hobbies. She says it’s the after school activities that do her in now.
- bombcar 2y ago
  Her hobby is raising kids, she just might not realize it. And yes, after a certain point more becomes easier - after all, one teacher can handle a class of 20+ students. The hardest is when the oldest are too young to help with the youngest.
  - markus_zhang 2y ago
    Yeah I realized that a while go that some people just like raising kids. Can't compete with those. One kid is well enough for me.
- tomaskafka 2y ago
  For the record of everyone, having multiple kids (3 in my case) is a thrill, and it helps much that they can play with each other instead of having the parents as a sole source of attention. Go have kids, they’re awesome :).

Tade0 2y ago

He's still more real than the parental figure puppet in Bing! (no relation to the MS product), who has no wants or needs and has infinite patience. In any case I don't think either of those shows tries to portray the average - more of an ideal we should strive for on good days.

bombcar 2y ago

Watch carefully. There are many times he says no and the kids just listen - often outright. But many times he gets his way with a distraction - the “game” the episode is named after. It’s also somewhat told from Bandit’s perspective (understandable given the author). The episode “Burger Shop” is a good example of him not getting his way at the same time he does, even though he ends up admitting his experiment was a failure.

lukan 2y ago
Oh, I didn't mean to imply he never says no and I like his elaborate educational games, they are truly inspiring. Just that quite often I get the feeling, I would just say no and that's it. I love playing with my kids, but not always. And I also don't like to fight with them sonthey accept it, but bandit often seems to avoid the fight by saying yes.