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> probably causong lasting damage And it shows very much in the article imo. Don't hate the player, hate the game? Edit: i actually like the guy's take on fit
by 331c8c71 2y ago
> probably causong lasting damage
And it shows very much in the article imo. Don't hate the player, hate the game?
Edit: i actually like the guy's take on fitness. But this is totally twisted:
> Lead an interesting life that your potential dates would want to be a part of. But do it for yourself first of all.
- Nav_Panel 2y ago"The social double-bind game can be phrased in several ways: The first rule of this game is that it is not a game. Everyone must play. You must love us. You must go on living. Be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role. Control yourself and be natural. Try to be sincere. Essentially, this game is a demand for spontaneous behavior of certain kinds. Living, loving, being natural or sincere—all these are spontaneous forms of behavior: they happen "of themselves" like digesting food or growing hair. As soon as they are forced they acquire that unnatural, contrived, and phony atmosphere which everyone deplores—weak and scentless like forced flowers and tasteless like forced fruit. Life and love generate effort, but effort will not generate them. Faith—in life, in other people, and in oneself—is the attitude of allowing the spontaneous to be spontaneous, in its own way and in its own time." - Alan Watts
- 331c8c71 2y agoJust wow! It's crystal clear to me that double bind is at the core of so many of my internal struggles. Your comment was literally eye-opening, thank you!
- astrange 2y agoThat's correct. Just because it doesn't make sense doesn't mean it's not correct, it's because there are opposing pressures you need to follow.