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> Very roughly the ratios for me were 100 swipes → 1 match → 0.1 dates → 0.05 lays → 0.005 meaningful connections Yeah I think I'm going to stick to becoming f

> Very roughly the ratios for me were 100 swipes → 1 match → 0.1 dates → 0.05 lays → 0.005 meaningful connections Yeah I think I'm going to stick to becoming friends with friends of friends and with random new people at places where we generally have shared interests, and then seeing if there's any mutual romantic interest after that. This process sounds emotionally draining.

neogodless 2y ago
I suspect there's some tongue in cheek with those numbers unless the one meaningful connection they have was the result of literally 20,000 swipes.
- bryanlarsen 2y ago
  He said he spent several hours a week swiping. Several hours a week times 3 years is a lot more than 20,000 swipes.
- Nav_Panel 2y ago
  I imagine this is completely serious, and isn't that different from what I've seen in a big city (NYC). Back when I was permitting myself to use these apps (2017, before I truly assessed the cost-benefit analysis), I met a girl who apparently swiped left on every guy. She showed me her Tinder and she had over 5,000 matches (and for some reason was meeting up with me, although it didn't last very long. I think she did get married a few years ago, though). That experience makes me think that the 20,000 number is legitimately a reasonable estimate.
- kragen 2y ago
  They apparently recommended† spending an hour a day on swiping and chatting; six months of chatting is presumably on the order of 2000 different chattees, so in all likelihood the number of swipes is closer to 0.2 million. ______ † I'm getting a server error, so I'm taking others' word for it.
- pianom4n 2y ago
  You can download your Tinder and Hinge swipe/like stats, so it's likely accurate. The sad part is that this what "success" looks like. The funnel looks way worse for most guys.
331c8c71 2y ago
I'm not looking but these ratios are insane.
flowerthoughts 2y ago
Surely this is why we've traditionally let the parents decide. Seems much easier, and no need for an app or AI.
- jhanschoo 2y ago
  In a society (or family) where there is no generational gap and parents and children are aligned, parents can be a good judge for a relationship fit.

neogodless 2y ago

I suspect there's some tongue in cheek with those numbers unless the one meaningful connection they have was the result of literally 20,000 swipes.

bryanlarsen 2y ago
He said he spent several hours a week swiping. Several hours a week times 3 years is a lot more than 20,000 swipes.
Nav_Panel 2y ago
I imagine this is completely serious, and isn't that different from what I've seen in a big city (NYC). Back when I was permitting myself to use these apps (2017, before I truly assessed the cost-benefit analysis), I met a girl who apparently swiped left on every guy. She showed me her Tinder and she had over 5,000 matches (and for some reason was meeting up with me, although it didn't last very long. I think she did get married a few years ago, though). That experience makes me think that the 20,000 number is legitimately a reasonable estimate.
kragen 2y ago
They apparently recommended† spending an hour a day on swiping and chatting; six months of chatting is presumably on the order of 2000 different chattees, so in all likelihood the number of swipes is closer to 0.2 million. ______ † I'm getting a server error, so I'm taking others' word for it.
pianom4n 2y ago
You can download your Tinder and Hinge swipe/like stats, so it's likely accurate. The sad part is that this what "success" looks like. The funnel looks way worse for most guys.

331c8c71 2y ago

I'm not looking but these ratios are insane.

flowerthoughts 2y ago

Surely this is why we've traditionally let the parents decide. Seems much easier, and no need for an app or AI.

jhanschoo 2y ago
In a society (or family) where there is no generational gap and parents and children are aligned, parents can be a good judge for a relationship fit.