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true, but sometimes, allowing yourself to feel certain very difficult emotions, such as grief/loss, can completely cripple you to the point you’re unable to tak
by JohnMakin 2y ago
true, but sometimes, allowing yourself to feel certain very difficult emotions, such as grief/loss, can completely cripple you to the point you’re unable to take care of things for your own survival, such as keeping a job, relationships, self care, etc. In these cases sometimes there is no other choice.
- munificent 2y agoYes, compartmentalization is an important skill for being a functional, mature adult. But you aren't supposed to put those feelings in the box forever, just until there's a better time to take them out and process them.
- JohnMakin 2y agoI’m not sure I’m misinterpreting what you’re saying but if you’re suggesting someone dealing with loss or grief, particularly really bad ones like losing a child, is not a functional mature adult because these emotions interfere with their day to day functioning, I would posit that a person who made such a claim has never experienced a loss like that. I hope I am not misinterpreting your first statement. as for your second, that’s often, if not always, an unconscious action
- munificent 2y agoSorry, no. I'm not saying you are immature unless you can compartmentalize all emotions. I'm saying that mature people are able to compartmentalize at least some of them in their day to day life. Losing a child or some other insurmountable horror is excluded. What I'm talking about is if you have a bad day at work, you don't yell at the poor cashier working the fast food drive through window when you're picking up dinner on the way home.