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I thought recently of 'indiscriminate kindness'. Basically, I consciously tried to be kind to anyone I interacted with (provided they were not openly hostile to

I thought recently of 'indiscriminate kindness'. Basically, I consciously tried to be kind to anyone I interacted with (provided they were not openly hostile to me), without discrimination. And I was amazed how many people I dismissed before, because there was nothing they could offer me, or they were threatening to me for some vague reasons. It was very tricky and more difficult to do than I thought. I tried to make it show in my voice and in my mannerisms. And while I'm not very far into it yet, I did feel like I began seeing others more for their full humanity, if that makes sense. One of the more profound feelings is when you see another person, and you realize, he's just like you. And that can kinda pull your heartstrings in a weird way. There's something to it.

nuancebydefault 2y ago
I try to be kind to every single person I meet, it has said benefits, you open up their personality and understand them better. But as with all things it has a flip side. I have the tendency to be a pleaser and when there is abuse of that, or simply no acknowledgement, it can be depressing.
- justanotherjoe 2y ago
  I guess I was thinking it as a kind of spiritual exercise, rather than something you do to make anyone happy with your smiles... The smiles mean nothing, really. What comes after that is what I find special. It's about taking proactive steps into growing that love, which is both universal and personal, instead of requiring circumstances to guide you there by the hand. Which it wont. Unless you're in a war, or something.
  - nuancebydefault 2y ago
    > The smiles mean nothing, really. I see what you mean. I believe smiling often is mostly a personality treat, some of such personalities smile without deeper meaning. A problem I seem to have is that i try to establish a deeper connection with many people and tend to get frustrated if it doesn't work out. Especially if it started with a wrongly interpreted meaningless smile. If you could teach about those proactive steps, i'd be glad to be an apprentice.

nuancebydefault 2y ago

I try to be kind to every single person I meet, it has said benefits, you open up their personality and understand them better. But as with all things it has a flip side. I have the tendency to be a pleaser and when there is abuse of that, or simply no acknowledgement, it can be depressing.

justanotherjoe 2y ago
I guess I was thinking it as a kind of spiritual exercise, rather than something you do to make anyone happy with your smiles... The smiles mean nothing, really. What comes after that is what I find special. It's about taking proactive steps into growing that love, which is both universal and personal, instead of requiring circumstances to guide you there by the hand. Which it wont. Unless you're in a war, or something.
- nuancebydefault 2y ago
  > The smiles mean nothing, really. I see what you mean. I believe smiling often is mostly a personality treat, some of such personalities smile without deeper meaning. A problem I seem to have is that i try to establish a deeper connection with many people and tend to get frustrated if it doesn't work out. Especially if it started with a wrongly interpreted meaningless smile. If you could teach about those proactive steps, i'd be glad to be an apprentice.