I don't recommend self hosting your own server, because most of the people I care about would not be capable of either doing that, or doing it securely; like 99

I don't recommend self hosting your own server, because most of the people I care about would not be capable of either doing that, or doing it securely; like 99.9% of people . We really need to have a world in which at least some service providers can actually be trusted. This is particularly true for communications, because the provider of all the people you are talking to each have a copy of your data. There are probably valid situations for self hosting, but a bit like prepping, it is not a method of sustaining civilization, but an attempt to survive it's fall; suitable for only low numbers of people.