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Heck yes, imagine having 20 year old kids in my 40s instead of 0-5 year olds! If you want to have kids don’t wait around if possible, not only will you have way
by luxuryballs 2y ago
Heck yes, imagine having 20 year old kids in my 40s instead of 0-5 year olds! If you want to have kids don’t wait around if possible, not only will you have way more energy but all the sooner they will be able to contribute to the household and just in time for your energy to start waning, BUT there’s a much bigger benefit I never noticed before:
The biggest gain of all is the extra 10-20 years you may be giving yourself to spend with your kids and grandkids, the opportunity cost is immense, I can’t emphasize this enough.
- smoyer 2y agoI had kids who were in their 20s when in my low 40s and now have a five year old at 60. I am convinced my energy level continues to be good because I'm spending it interacting with her. Last week I even fell off the slide at the playground while playing tag :)
- ViscountPenguin 2y agoHow'd that happen, if you don't mind me asking? Do you have a much younger partner, or are they not your biological child?
- smoyer 2y agoThey are not my biological child - were foster parents with the adoption happening soon.
- ViscountPenguin 2y agoCongrats on the upcoming adoption!
- nextts 2y agoEnergy and health are personal. Age correlation with health is just statisical. I had a 75 year old come and drive miles and fix my air conditioning. Fit as a fiddle.
- luxuryballs 2y agoI definitely feel this too, the motivation is there to be ready for anything, because you really have no choice even, like dad reflexes as therapy. There’s something to this for sure from a biological survival standpoint, having kids is naturally the completion of puberty, and the growth you experience raising children has so many more dimensions than the growth you experience while you’re still the one being raised. It may very well be something more fundamental to health than we currently appreciate in modern life. Or perhaps it’s some kind of “law of equivalent exchange” where we have merely traded poisons from one cause of death to another, in terms of life expectancy. It seems we can more easily avoid war and disease and famine today but modern living can end up being a trap that causes a significant number of people to experience a “failure to thrive” of sorts.
- ViscountPenguin 2y agoNot to mention more grandparnetal help! Having a kid in my 20s has left me with a massive village to help raise them.
- nextts 2y agoDo people who get together at 18 wait until 35 to have kids? I bet it is rare unless they are on some other mission in life.