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This is actually very helpful advice. I, an INTJ, often wind up worsening squabbles with my ISFP girlfriend because she "feels" things while I'm a "heartless au
by zacharydanger 18y ago
This is actually very helpful advice. I, an INTJ, often wind up worsening squabbles with my ISFP girlfriend because she "feels" things while I'm a "heartless automaton".
- lbrandy 18y ago"Dont worry honey. The reason we fight like this is your are an ISFP which means you are very emotional, and I am an INTJ, which means I've very analytical." Heh, I'm sure that goes over great. Meta-analysis in the middle of a "feelings vs analysis" argument.
- LogicHoleFlaw 18y agoI find that the best thing I can do in an argument like that is to shut my big mouth. I'm strongly INTJ and well, I've said some things that I regretted after the fact. Emotions are real too.
- icey 18y agoI'm about as INTJ as they come, and the phrase that has saved my relationship is "Please let me have 2 minutes to think about this". My wife knows me well enough by now to know that I'm not trying to get out of anything, that I really need a moment to ponder the situation.
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- lallysingh 18y agoYOUR FEELINGS DO NOT COMPUTE! Sometimes a joke can help. If that doesn't work, and you've already tried being nice, you can always just set her up for a logical trap and let her fall in. While her motivations may be emotional, she's using logical argument to get there, and she's not playing fair. So, play dirty too, and a good trap or two and the hits will take out all of her steam. Sometimes people are just unreasonable, and very few people are really good at arguing.
- ahoyhere 18y agoYes, healthy loving relationships are characterized by contempt and trickery.