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Likewise, I became a full-time stay-at-home dad about 2 and a half years ago. I still have people ask me when I'm going to "get a real job". I can write it of

Likewise, I became a full-time stay-at-home dad about 2 and a half years ago. I still have people ask me when I'm going to "get a real job". I can write it off when it comes from my 91 year old grandfather, but it's often coming from 30-something women and men. The implication is that you're not a "real man" if you're not financially supporting the family, and that your wife is not a "real woman" if she lets her husband watch the kids. I'm often surprised by how many people refer to our situation negatively, while they seem to view it as heroic when a single mom works and puts her kids in daycare.

Juan01 14y ago
What I find a bit surprising is that the two aspects are seen as two completely different things. As a soon to be father and current husband one of my motivations towards going to work and advancing my career is financially supporting my family. Does that mean that I will spend lest time at my house than I would wish to? Sure but the key thing is to balance both, you can't take care of your child if you never see him but you can't take care of your child if you can't buy him food either.