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So if we have to go with your observation, the bully is the leader of a group. Such a person is rarely alone in life, and it would follow with the article. To l
by bloomingkales 2y ago
So if we have to go with your observation, the bully is the leader of a group. Such a person is rarely alone in life, and it would follow with the article. To live with yourself as a bully, you need a complicit group. If the group becomes aware of you, you kind of need a new group to believe you.
A group can be just two people. The bully exists because there is another that allows the group to exist (allows the abusive dynamic to exist). If the group stops existing, the bully stops existing, unless they find another group that allows it.
The bully by themselves (to be truly alone) would feel uncomfortable because their life is centered around extreme group dynamics.
- elzbardico 2y agoThe problem in my particular case is that the bully's group was basically every other kid but me and a couple of other nerds. The other kids kind of didn't like our quirkness, or our poverty, or whatever other thing. Maybe they were fed up with the fact that we were the know it alls and the teacher's pet. It doesn't matter, but the fact is that we were the object of social rejection and the bully as the leader of the pack of kids, was also the executor.
- bloomingkales 2y agoI'm sorry you went through that. In fact, I knew you went through that soon as you described it so accurately.
- elzbardico 2y agoYeah. It sucked, but understanding the dynamic and changing school eliminated the problem. I was lucky to have the opportunity to changing school though. few parents have this option nowadays.