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Why does it have to be an age thing? Some men and women are players and the game is the game to them. Those who are naturally monogamous would be stressed in a

Why does it have to be an age thing? Some men and women are players and the game is the game to them. Those who are naturally monogamous would be stressed in a game like that. Constantly uprooting is a stressful lifestyle and can truly be torture (as evidenced by constant anxiety, no way to be). I can promise you people who are job hopping are hopping around other things in life (friends, family, relationships, projects, interests, roles, identities). It's a whole way of being. Edit: This is not a judgement, but if you felt like it was, I very much want to hear about it.

darkwater 2y ago
> Why does it have to be an age thing? Some men and women are players and the game is the game to them. Yes, buuut many will be players from 25 to 35 (with some degree of flexibility), that's why it's still an age thing. Yes, there are persons that are players for life, sure. But IME they are a minority. Or maybe I'm just projecting, who knows?
neumann 2y ago
Doesn't have to be an age thing, but it often is an age thing. Because lots of us were carefree before dependents and a mortgage as well. Unexpected or deliberate change was an opportunity, a challenge, a stimulant! Job hopping (or hopping around relationships) when young can be about exploring the world, finding yourself and your values and isn't inherently bad. Then you discover what you are good at doing and that you like doing and dedicating time to (or perhaps another person with whom you want to spend all your time) and your priorities change. Then you might have kids and the work becomes more about financial security for the family then about your personal growth. And so you aren't looking at layoffs and unexpected change as opportunity because you are happy with what you've got. It just often is an age or 'stage of life' thing for many people.
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swat535 2y ago
It's an age-related issue because ageism is deeply ingrained in the tech industry making it difficult for older engineers to find opportunities. They are are more likely to set strong boundaries, demand fair compensation, and expect strong leadership. They are less willing to work nights and weekends, accept subpar pay, or tolerate workplace abuse, unlike younger, less experienced employees who may be more naive or eager to conform.

darkwater 2y ago

> Why does it have to be an age thing? Some men and women are players and the game is the game to them. Yes, buuut many will be players from 25 to 35 (with some degree of flexibility), that's why it's still an age thing. Yes, there are persons that are players for life, sure. But IME they are a minority. Or maybe I'm just projecting, who knows?

neumann 2y ago

Doesn't have to be an age thing, but it often is an age thing. Because lots of us were carefree before dependents and a mortgage as well. Unexpected or deliberate change was an opportunity, a challenge, a stimulant! Job hopping (or hopping around relationships) when young can be about exploring the world, finding yourself and your values and isn't inherently bad. Then you discover what you are good at doing and that you like doing and dedicating time to (or perhaps another person with whom you want to spend all your time) and your priorities change. Then you might have kids and the work becomes more about financial security for the family then about your personal growth. And so you aren't looking at layoffs and unexpected change as opportunity because you are happy with what you've got. It just often is an age or 'stage of life' thing for many people.

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swat535 2y ago

It's an age-related issue because ageism is deeply ingrained in the tech industry making it difficult for older engineers to find opportunities. They are are more likely to set strong boundaries, demand fair compensation, and expect strong leadership. They are less willing to work nights and weekends, accept subpar pay, or tolerate workplace abuse, unlike younger, less experienced employees who may be more naive or eager to conform.