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How do you know I have good health? What an incredibly smug comment meant to silence someone with no basis in fact.

margalabargala 2y ago
Well, the person you originally replied to mentioned having a disability, and your response was "yeah but you have kids so really you chose this and also I disagree that life is harder for some people." The generous interpretation would be that you have sufficiently good health that you do not have to structure your life around it, and therefore lack understanding of the challenges faced by those who do. The alternate interpretation, that you do understand and choose to ignore and dismiss, would be rather less generous to you.
- absolutelastone 2y ago
  So you took the generous route in publicly shaming them. I think their quibble was with a different item being used as evidence there (i.e., having a family), not necessarily with all that was said.
  - margalabargala 2y ago
    I didn't publicly shame anyone. I pointed out their clear position of privilege to help them learn to apply empathy. I think helping one another to build empathy is a good thing, and even if the person I replied to is unable to do so, it's possible that observing them tell a disabled person that they don't think their life is any harder will help other third parties such as yourself build that empathy. I did not flag their original comment, but it's not for no reason it was flagged to death.
    - absolutelastone 2y ago
      Text is a fairly imprecise form of communication. It's pretty common for multiple people to get triggered by misreading a post the same way if such a misread is possible. In other cases downvoted posts are often the most interesting precisely because they trigger people with points they don't want to consider. I certainly wouldn't cite it as proof of any position.
- andrewlgood 2y ago
  I actually agreed with them that a disability makes life harder. I then pointed out other things that an individual did not choose can make life harder as well. As for bringing up children, I did make the leap that that is generally a big difference between younger employees and older employees.
  - margalabargala 2y ago
    > I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” It sounds like what you think you wrote, is not in fact the words of yours that everybody has been reading.
    - genewitch 2y ago
      My phone will drop contractions, and that would be charitable. A double negative is risky without typos, though.
    - andrewlgood 2y ago
      Hmm.. I think we are talking past each other. In my initial comment I said "I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” I still maintain that comment. In my follow up comment I attempted to clarify my comment in response to giantg2's reply. "I do not have a disability (my wife may disagree) and I agree it makes life more challenging (wouldn’t be called a disability otherwise)." I completely agree a disability makes life more difficult. I simply added that it is not the only thing that makes life more difficult. All of these things need to be considered when making career/job decisions.
      - margalabargala 2y ago
        Let me take a step back here. You're contradicting yourself. > In my initial comment I said "I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” I still maintain that comment. > I completely agree a disability makes life more difficult. Do you not see how it's hard to square the first statement, with the second? You do not agree that life is much harder for some people, but you do agree that a disability makes life more difficult?

Well, the person you originally replied to mentioned having a disability, and your response was "yeah but you have kids so really you chose this and also I disagree that life is harder for some people." The generous interpretation would be that you have sufficiently good health that you do not have to structure your life around it, and therefore lack understanding of the challenges faced by those who do. The alternate interpretation, that you do understand and choose to ignore and dismiss, would be rather less generous to you.

absolutelastone 2y ago
So you took the generous route in publicly shaming them. I think their quibble was with a different item being used as evidence there (i.e., having a family), not necessarily with all that was said.
- margalabargala 2y ago
  I didn't publicly shame anyone. I pointed out their clear position of privilege to help them learn to apply empathy. I think helping one another to build empathy is a good thing, and even if the person I replied to is unable to do so, it's possible that observing them tell a disabled person that they don't think their life is any harder will help other third parties such as yourself build that empathy. I did not flag their original comment, but it's not for no reason it was flagged to death.
  - absolutelastone 2y ago
    Text is a fairly imprecise form of communication. It's pretty common for multiple people to get triggered by misreading a post the same way if such a misread is possible. In other cases downvoted posts are often the most interesting precisely because they trigger people with points they don't want to consider. I certainly wouldn't cite it as proof of any position.
andrewlgood 2y ago
I actually agreed with them that a disability makes life harder. I then pointed out other things that an individual did not choose can make life harder as well. As for bringing up children, I did make the leap that that is generally a big difference between younger employees and older employees.
- margalabargala 2y ago
  > I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” It sounds like what you think you wrote, is not in fact the words of yours that everybody has been reading.
  - genewitch 2y ago
    My phone will drop contractions, and that would be charitable. A double negative is risky without typos, though.
  - andrewlgood 2y ago
    Hmm.. I think we are talking past each other. In my initial comment I said "I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” I still maintain that comment. In my follow up comment I attempted to clarify my comment in response to giantg2's reply. "I do not have a disability (my wife may disagree) and I agree it makes life more challenging (wouldn’t be called a disability otherwise)." I completely agree a disability makes life more difficult. I simply added that it is not the only thing that makes life more difficult. All of these things need to be considered when making career/job decisions.
    - margalabargala 2y ago
      Let me take a step back here. You're contradicting yourself. > In my initial comment I said "I do disagree with your assertion that “Life is much harder for some of us.” I still maintain that comment. > I completely agree a disability makes life more difficult. Do you not see how it's hard to square the first statement, with the second? You do not agree that life is much harder for some people, but you do agree that a disability makes life more difficult?