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> invest that time where you're sure to derive meaning from it. all my time is taken up with doing work, chores at home and childcare. I feel fucking depresse

> invest that time where you're sure to derive meaning from it. all my time is taken up with doing work, chores at home and childcare. I feel fucking depressed.

eastbound 2y ago
I know it doesn’t feel good on the spot, but as a single hopeless man, I can tell you that having children is meaning. If only because the world doesn’t listen to single men. So, enjoy your glimpse of power. Repeat your life day after day, and you will understand one day.
- GaylordTuring 2y ago
  I’ve never understood this infinite loop thinking. Why is it meaning to create new people who in turn will have to create new people to derive meaning for themselves?
  - infinitezest 2y ago
    Where do you propose meaning be derived?
- ericjmorey 2y ago
  If you aren't being listened to, it could be that your form of communication isn't in line with the listeners. The same signal is being interpreted differently between sender and receiver. Just a possibility to look into. Hope you're well.
xivzgrev 2y ago
I’m in the same boat! I wouldn’t say I feel depressed though, I’d say strained. There’s no “me” time. The thing that keeps me going (besides love for my family) is a little bit of hope. How can you take small steps toward a more balanced place today? Do you know what self care you need? How can you start making time for it? Can your wife / parents / in law help? Can you hire someone? Or can you combine stuff? For a while (before I fell off wagon), I was jogging with my kiddo so I took one task (watching kid) and knocked out 3 birds with it (watching kid, giving kid outside time, exercising) Another one: I want to start eating more healthy. And my kid doesn’t eat vegetables on his own. So during his meal times I started eating a bowl of veggies with him. I eat veggies, and he will often start eating with me too. Win / win. It’s the small things that help me get through.
- apwell23 2y ago
  > Do you know what self care you need? How can you start making time for it? Can your wife / parents / in law help? Can you hire someone? Or can you combine stuff? yes skiing is my passion in life. I feel like it was brutally taken away from me ( by me) . Haven't found a way to make it happen because we don't live anywhere close to mountains.
cjcenizal 2y ago
How old are your kids? I found it was really tough for me until they hit around age 3 or 4. Getting them into school helped enormously. As they grew older it became easier for me to reason with them and they also became more capable of taking care of themselves and even helping me with some things.
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> invest that time where you're sure to derive meaning from it. all my time is taken up with doing work, chores at home and childcare. I feel fucking depressed.

eastbound 2y ago

I know it doesn’t feel good on the spot, but as a single hopeless man, I can tell you that having children is meaning. If only because the world doesn’t listen to single men. So, enjoy your glimpse of power. Repeat your life day after day, and you will understand one day.

GaylordTuring 2y ago
I’ve never understood this infinite loop thinking. Why is it meaning to create new people who in turn will have to create new people to derive meaning for themselves?
- infinitezest 2y ago
  Where do you propose meaning be derived?
ericjmorey 2y ago
If you aren't being listened to, it could be that your form of communication isn't in line with the listeners. The same signal is being interpreted differently between sender and receiver. Just a possibility to look into. Hope you're well.

xivzgrev 2y ago

I’m in the same boat! I wouldn’t say I feel depressed though, I’d say strained. There’s no “me” time. The thing that keeps me going (besides love for my family) is a little bit of hope. How can you take small steps toward a more balanced place today? Do you know what self care you need? How can you start making time for it? Can your wife / parents / in law help? Can you hire someone? Or can you combine stuff? For a while (before I fell off wagon), I was jogging with my kiddo so I took one task (watching kid) and knocked out 3 birds with it (watching kid, giving kid outside time, exercising) Another one: I want to start eating more healthy. And my kid doesn’t eat vegetables on his own. So during his meal times I started eating a bowl of veggies with him. I eat veggies, and he will often start eating with me too. Win / win. It’s the small things that help me get through.

apwell23 2y ago
> Do you know what self care you need? How can you start making time for it? Can your wife / parents / in law help? Can you hire someone? Or can you combine stuff? yes skiing is my passion in life. I feel like it was brutally taken away from me ( by me) . Haven't found a way to make it happen because we don't live anywhere close to mountains.

cjcenizal 2y ago

How old are your kids? I found it was really tough for me until they hit around age 3 or 4. Getting them into school helped enormously. As they grew older it became easier for me to reason with them and they also became more capable of taking care of themselves and even helping me with some things.

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