That came as a shift for me. In the early aughts I had long online conversations before meeting. I took it as a way to show that I was serious. One of those t

That came as a shift for me. In the early aughts I had long online conversations before meeting. I took it as a way to show that I was serious. One of those turned into a decade long relationship, and when I returned, the time horizon was much shorter. I think too many women had been jerked around by men who never wanted to meet (perhaps because they were married). Things have shifted yet again with the prevalence of bots and scammers. Which is too bad, because it had been an environment that suited me well: getting to know someone in a safe way, and to show them who I was.