> They asked a question specifically about the feelings of a "heterosexual man". Why include the sexuality of that hypothetical person in the question if their

> They asked a question specifically about the feelings of a "heterosexual man". Why include the sexuality of that hypothetical person in the question if their sexual preferences were not intended to be part of the answer? > I don't mean that or my previous questions rhetorically. If you don't mean these questions rhetorically, then stop asking them in the form of a rhetorical question, where you propose an answer and ask a yes/no whether it's correct. If you're really asking, then you don't know the answer, so just ask the question and listen to the answer. For example, if you want to know why the sexuality of the person stumbling upon two men kissing is relevant, you can just ask, "Why is the sexuality of the person stumbling upon the two men kissing relevant?" You don't have to pose a hypothesis like "it's because the person would be aroused by seeing them kiss". That's just a weird hypothesis, limits answers to yes/no, and makes it sound like you're more interested in communicating that accusation than understanding what the person said. Curious people ask open-ended questions, not yes/no "Is X what you think?" type questions that sound a lot like you're accusing them of thinking X. "Why include the sexuality of that hypothetical person?" is a great question, and in fact, "Why is the sex/gender of the people kissing relevant?" is also a good question.