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The fact that you characterize parenthood as a "side-quest" confirms that you probably shouldn't become a parent.

K0balt 2y ago
Yeah. If you’re not looking forward to it being the main event, you probably should just skip it all together and save yourself the disappointment. Parenting is extremely undervalued in modern society.
h0l0cube 2y ago
It's a good thing then that they're quite deliberately skipping it without compunction, though it seems not without unwarranted judgement.
- stayclassy9 2y ago
  There's a weird vaguely-evangelical bent here that is, ultimately, not surprising, but still jarring. Threads about having children tend to bring judgemental parents out of the woodwork to tut-tut anyone who dares to choose a different path.
  - NeutralCrane 2y ago
    No one seems to be as dogmatic or tut-tutting as much in this thread as you, so you should be aware that you seem to be unintentionally projecting.
    - h0l0cube 2y ago
      This is a basically a tut-tutting conga line at this point.
Sohcahtoa82 2y ago
A fair statement, even though the phrasing is meant to be humorous and tongue-in-cheek. I'm 42 and have simply never felt the desire to be a parent. Never felt a biological need to reproduce. Don't get me wrong, I have a libido, but never wanted a baby to come from it. I can rave for hours about how great the DINK life is. A sibling comment talked about the logistics of traveling on vacation with kids. It's amazing to not have to deal with any of that.
bsder 2y ago
A lot of people who don't characterize it as a "side-quest" shouldn't be parents either. And yet they reproduce anyway.
stayclassy9 2y ago
I knew it wouldn't be long before the blood-and-soil folks came out lol. Why do you feel the need to suggest not becoming a parent to someone who just said it wasn't the life they wanted? Do you mete out the same judgement on parents who also should have abstained?

Yeah. If you’re not looking forward to it being the main event, you probably should just skip it all together and save yourself the disappointment. Parenting is extremely undervalued in modern society.

h0l0cube 2y ago

It's a good thing then that they're quite deliberately skipping it without compunction, though it seems not without unwarranted judgement.

stayclassy9 2y ago
There's a weird vaguely-evangelical bent here that is, ultimately, not surprising, but still jarring. Threads about having children tend to bring judgemental parents out of the woodwork to tut-tut anyone who dares to choose a different path.
- NeutralCrane 2y ago
  No one seems to be as dogmatic or tut-tutting as much in this thread as you, so you should be aware that you seem to be unintentionally projecting.
  - h0l0cube 2y ago
    This is a basically a tut-tutting conga line at this point.

Sohcahtoa82 2y ago

A fair statement, even though the phrasing is meant to be humorous and tongue-in-cheek. I'm 42 and have simply never felt the desire to be a parent. Never felt a biological need to reproduce. Don't get me wrong, I have a libido, but never wanted a baby to come from it. I can rave for hours about how great the DINK life is. A sibling comment talked about the logistics of traveling on vacation with kids. It's amazing to not have to deal with any of that.

bsder 2y ago

A lot of people who don't characterize it as a "side-quest" shouldn't be parents either. And yet they reproduce anyway.

stayclassy9 2y ago

I knew it wouldn't be long before the blood-and-soil folks came out lol. Why do you feel the need to suggest not becoming a parent to someone who just said it wasn't the life they wanted? Do you mete out the same judgement on parents who also should have abstained?