I live in a very similar neighborhood with exactly the same problems (DC railroad suburb) and completely agree with your assessment. Your observation that you

I live in a very similar neighborhood with exactly the same problems (DC railroad suburb) and completely agree with your assessment. Your observation that you start to sound like a crank really rings true, and it’s exacerbated by the stark generational gap where every interaction is painted as an attack on long-time residents, especially ones who don’t want to recognize that, say, taxes need to go up because infrastructure costs more to maintain or that traffic is worse because they, a retiree sitting on a $2M house, haven’t been able to downsize into an apartment and so the people who actually need to commute to work have to drive from a further out suburb and transit isn’t an option because guess who reliably votes against it? We had a positively surreal debate when the “preservationists” demanded that an apartment building literally next to a metro station have a huge parking garage even though the developer thought it was overkill. That made fewer, more expensive units and then they ended up renting out unused parking spaces as storage units because the people who choose to live next to transit are often trying not to pay for a car. Actuarially, most of the people who showed up at those meetings are probably dead by now but their decisions will still be visible in 2050.