> assume he is unassuming, because he presents a human edifice that strangers open up to. In my experience it is multiple traits that people open up to. Zero j

> assume he is unassuming, because he presents a human edifice that strangers open up to. In my experience it is multiple traits that people open up to. Zero judgement, approachability, interest, friendliness and non-gossipy/tight-lipped about sensitive information. Most people present as judgemental. It's hard not to appear judgemental, and it's even harder not to be judgemental. I love non-judgemental people, and have managed to collect a few (mostly female) as friends. One or two get told the most intensely personal stuff