> Let’s be real: In effect, pronouns are a form of generational warfare. Oh, **** off. I agree that grace is something that sometimes gets lost in the cutting

> Let’s be real: In effect, pronouns are a form of generational warfare. Oh, **** off. I agree that grace is something that sometimes gets lost in the cutting edge of liberalism. The article touches on this—in some cases, yes, it's a generational difficulty conceptualizing what are to them new ideas about gender that conflict with their upbringing. There's sometimes an attitude of "get with the program yesterday" amongst very progressive people that serves to alienate people acting in good faith trying but erring. I think if we did show more grace in that area, it would be a net positive for society and for trans acceptance. However. That "get with it yesterday" attitude is a response to the overwhelming amount of bad faith dialogue that currently exists and has historically existed in the trans conversation. This article glosses over intentional misgendering and real transphobia in a way I found very gross. Starting a conversation with pronouns can be a form of liberal virtue signalling, but it can also be a genuine exercise in trying to accommodate people's hard fought for identities. I'm sorry if you don't think someone is worth gendering correctly because they haven't done something outstanding for you, and I'm sorry if you don't feel that person is worth expressing your identity to either. To the same extent that we should be extending grace to people acting in good faith to understand gender pronouns, I hope we can extend that grace to people using them.