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I don't dislike talking to others. It's just hard for me to say what I want to say at the speed of normal conversation. I write more slowly and carefully, can e

I don't dislike talking to others. It's just hard for me to say what I want to say at the speed of normal conversation. I write more slowly and carefully, can edit what I've drafted, and check facts too, all before I hit the submit button.

markus_zhang 2y ago
This is a good point.
koakuma-chan 2y ago
This.
kennysoona 2y ago
You just need to find the right people to interact with, people who can match your pace and preferred level of articulation. It's not like they don't exist.
- markus_zhang 2y ago
  I just want to mention that although in general I dislike f2f communication, I'd love to talk about technical stuffs or hear other people passionately talking about technical stuffs. But again most people don't really have the luxury to find the right people to interact with. We weaklings don't control our own fate.
  - kennysoona 2y ago
    I think a lot of people give up. How many people on reddit or irc who actually get along with each other well organize meetups, or how many people still look for meetups to try and find compatible people?
    - markus_zhang 2y ago
      There is another topic to argue that is whether meetups are really useful or not. A lot of things are "useful" only to the point that they provide certain excitement, like coffee, and then that's it. I mean it's still better than nothing, but converting excitement to productivity is not easy.
      - kennysoona 2y ago
        I think there is something to positive human experiences that you can't replace online. I get preferring virtual interactions for the reasons you listed, but if you can find the right people to have those with in real life, you get the benefit of emotional connection which can be very rewarding. Connecting with other people is still why you try to have any interactions at all, virtual or not.
kshacker 2y ago
I posted something similar to what you said just a few days back although not exactly in those words: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43083345#43085603 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43083345#43085603 1) I would always struggle to interject in time due to slow processing, and 2) I could write better than others because I could edit. However, this changed / improved over time. And I have a sneaking suspicion that it changed after I had stents placed giving me more oxygen supply. I believe many parts of my life changed around the same time. Not immediately but over the next year or 2, it has now been 9 years. This could just be life eventually connecting all the neurons in the right way, and of course I do not recommend getting stents as an experiment, but I wonder if apart from this being how we are built, there may be fixes (herbs or surgeries) that may be able to improve this.

markus_zhang 2y ago

This is a good point.

koakuma-chan 2y ago

This.

kennysoona 2y ago

You just need to find the right people to interact with, people who can match your pace and preferred level of articulation. It's not like they don't exist.

markus_zhang 2y ago
I just want to mention that although in general I dislike f2f communication, I'd love to talk about technical stuffs or hear other people passionately talking about technical stuffs. But again most people don't really have the luxury to find the right people to interact with. We weaklings don't control our own fate.
- kennysoona 2y ago
  I think a lot of people give up. How many people on reddit or irc who actually get along with each other well organize meetups, or how many people still look for meetups to try and find compatible people?
  - markus_zhang 2y ago
    There is another topic to argue that is whether meetups are really useful or not. A lot of things are "useful" only to the point that they provide certain excitement, like coffee, and then that's it. I mean it's still better than nothing, but converting excitement to productivity is not easy.
    - kennysoona 2y ago
      I think there is something to positive human experiences that you can't replace online. I get preferring virtual interactions for the reasons you listed, but if you can find the right people to have those with in real life, you get the benefit of emotional connection which can be very rewarding. Connecting with other people is still why you try to have any interactions at all, virtual or not.

kshacker 2y ago

I posted something similar to what you said just a few days back although not exactly in those words: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43083345#43085603 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43083345#43085603 1) I would always struggle to interject in time due to slow processing, and 2) I could write better than others because I could edit. However, this changed / improved over time. And I have a sneaking suspicion that it changed after I had stents placed giving me more oxygen supply. I believe many parts of my life changed around the same time. Not immediately but over the next year or 2, it has now been 9 years. This could just be life eventually connecting all the neurons in the right way, and of course I do not recommend getting stents as an experiment, but I wonder if apart from this being how we are built, there may be fixes (herbs or surgeries) that may be able to improve this.