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> But, we knew we would be there an hour early because of where/when we were dropping our kid off for the evening. So I just said TELL them when will be there a
by kjrfghslkdjfl 2y ago
> But, we knew we would be there an hour early because of where/when we were dropping our kid off for the evening. So I just said TELL them when will be there and TELL them we’ll be at the bar if anyone wants to have a drink beforehand.
I do this too. And it's not just better communication, it's better life. This way I'm not dependent on other people to have fun. I'm not waiting on coordination in order to start doing the thing I want. I'm doing the thing I want, and letting others know that they can join.
- conductr 2y agolol. Same. And from same example of this dinner night I described started with my wife sharing 3 restaurant options with the group and a few texts flying around that I 1) didn’t get ahead of and 2) was late to the convo on but even by the time I got onto it all the messages were “they all look great” “oh I just can’t choose” “you choose we can’t!” and I just get to it and see this has been going on/off 6 hours with no decision and say “X would be my pick” and every quickly agrees to it. Idk if it’s a men vs women thing or me specifically, but I just like to have a bias for action and make quick decisions with efficiency in communication. I think saying that briefly online in a comment probably makes sound like a bossy jerk but there’s a lot of nuance and skill to hone with this style of communication that is more difficult to elaborate on here, but the key is doing it without rubbing people the wrong way.