I think all this arguing over the phrasing is kinda missing the point. It comes down to whether you expect this person really will have objections. If you are

I think all this arguing over the phrasing is kinda missing the point. It comes down to whether you expect this person really will have objections. If you are going to do something you believe they won’t approve of, even the most polite wording will not stop it being a dick move and confrontational. Likewise if it’s something you’re pretty sure they won’t object to, you can probably be quite abrupt and it’ll be fine.