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"I began getting depressed about the lack of a life I had outside of work. I’d bring this bad mood to work with me, in turn making it a worse place to be. I’ve
by larrys 14y ago
"I began getting depressed about the lack of a life I had outside of work. I’d bring this bad mood to work with me, in turn making it a worse place to be.
I’ve since made an asserted effort to dedicate time to my social life: going on trips with friends; going on dates; and, most importantly, getting work completely off my mind occasionally."
Serious question (and my thoughts) here I'm not trying to be cute. Regarding your "social life".
Do you think you will grow out of this? Because what do you think is going to happen if/when you are married and have children and aren't living in SF or some exciting place and have much on your plate?
The best way to insure that you can live the life you want and have some fun is to put all the effort in that you can now and try to put off having fun until a bit later on. Now is when you have energy and should be able to work non-stop with very little else. (I didn't surface for air for 7 years working 6 to 7 days a week ..)
I point this out also because the world is littered with people who didn't get into a good school because they spent a bit to much time worrying about missing something or having fun and are paying for that later. I'm sure you've met people like this in your high school.
It's a little unclear how long you worked before you realized what you wrote. It was certainly less than two years since you wrote this: "I’ve grown a lot as a person in the past two years." That's not a long time to be denied the pleasures of other people and fun (look at people on tours of duty in the war or speaking of my own experience).
The fact that you never had a problem until later means you really haven't dealt with the situation you are in now in the past which I think is what you are saying. Things were easy for you until you got around a group of people who were also good. I know first hand about the MIT syndrome since I saw others that suffered from it at the school that I went to which was quite good.
I didn't suffer from that for one simple reason.
Things were never easy for me it always took hard work and it also took plenty of effort for me to get into the school I went to. So when I got there I didn't fall apart if I got a "B+". I just kept chugging away while the ones who were "so much smarter" who got in with their top grades and SAT's wilted under the pressure of having to do so much work. This was a long time ago compared to when you are in school. So to answer your question, no, things haven't changed that much.
You've got plenty of time to have fun. Now is the time to work as hard as you possibly can with minimal breaks in order to achieve your goals. You might not surface for air for a few years but it will probably be well worth it.
One last thing. There will be times in life when you might have some crisis either in personal life or business that will require you to work all the time. I had a case where several of my top people left, I was in the middle of a legal case, and a breakup, and I still had to show up to work doing the job of three people and deal with personal issues and family fights. Having to go through that and knowing I could (similar I'm sure to having climbed a certain mountain like you are doing) was a great experience that made me realize that I didn't have to be scared of the unknown and that I could handle it.
- djt 14y agoIt is possible to have a social and work life balance. As an entrepreneur it will always weigh towards work but doing 6-7 days (80 hours) a week for years shows either that you enjoy it or there is a problem in product or delegation abilities. I think there is something to be said for taking advantage of your youth and energy for something other than work.
- larrys 14y ago"either that you enjoy it or there is a problem in product or delegation abilities." I agree that some people have a problem "in product or delegation abilities". Unfortunately business is about risk and constant change. If you don't have enough squirreled away when the rainy day comes you will be dead in the water. The world is littered with business people who didn't think things in their business would ever change. Maybe you own a restaurant and a competitor opens up down the street? Maybe you work in video post production, with network clients, but then their business drops so your business goes out the window. Are you prepared for that (Andy Grove of course said "only the paranoid survive". And that is true from my many years.) Related, have you ever heard of someone winning a medal or being atop in sports or entertainment and at least in the early years not working 24x7 to achieve their dream? "shows either that you enjoy it " It is well know that in order to succeed at something you have to enjoy it to the point of wanting to do it all the time and being a work workaholic. You will always be able to find cases where there are exceptions of course but point is whether you want to be at the top or merely make sure you aren't one day in a van down by the river you better be working pretty hard.
- lazerwalker 14y ago> The best way to insure that you can live the life you want and have some fun is to put all the effort in that you can now and try to put off having fun until a bit later on. Now is when you have energy and should be able to work non-stop with very little else. (I didn't surface for air for 7 years working 6 to 7 days a week ..) There's a flip side to the coin, though: your opportunities for 'having fun' are very different as a twenty-something living in a big city than as someone who's married with children in a less exciting locale. Many older people successfully start companies; far fewer stay out partying with their friends until 4am or go backpacking across Europe. I'd argue you can find a balance. You shouldn't piss away your youth and your potential, no, but life's too short to spend it perpetually saying "I'll have fun later" because one day there won't be a later. Especially since working insane hours is usually a game of diminishing returns: while you might have been able to spend 7 years working your ass off 7 days a week, most normal people burn out, even the most driven and brightest of 20-somethings.