You're effectively invoking Ring Theory - https://speakinggrief.org/get-better-at-grief/supporting-grief/ring-theory https://speakinggrief.org/get-better-at-gri

You're effectively invoking Ring Theory - https://speakinggrief.org/get-better-at-grief/supporting-grief/ring-theory https://speakinggrief.org/get-better-at-grief/supporting-gri... - which I think is a strong foundation for navigating grief and distress. But I don't think it's a valid criticism here because OP actively calls out they trying to find the most appropriate path for empathy ("support in") while deliberately not equating the two experiences of grief (avoiding "complain in").